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5 Questions to Ask Before Getting a Senior a Pet

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Ongoing research seeks to pinpoint the therapeutic benefits of pet ownership (such as reduced blood pressure), but we don’t really need science to tell us about the many ways pets can enhance our lives. They offer a furry shoulder to cry on and unconditional love. They offer amusement and loyal companionship. No wonder over 66 million American and 7.5 million Canadian households own a pet.

Pet ownership can hold real benefits for seniors, too. As Sandra shared in the online Remember for Alzheimer’s Facebook community:

“My husband is in advanced Alzheimer's. We have a cocker spaniel, six years old, who we have had since she was eight weeks old. My hubby loves this dog to no end. Sadly he cannot remember her name now, but he is still her best friend. They sit in the same recliner all day long.”

Pets may also provide comfort to caregivers, as Mona described:

“My mom has Alzheimer’s, end stages. She stays at home and my dad, myself and a couple of others take care of her. My dad got a dog in November, and loves him so much. He treats him like his son. His dog Archie loves my dad. Helps my dad not to be lonely, when I'm not there.”

Of course, pet ownership may not be appropriate for every senior. Here are five questions to consider before bringing a pet into your loved one’s life.

1. Is anyone allergic?

It’s hard to enjoy a pet if it makes you sneeze, break out in a skin rash or suffer an asthma attack. That’s why it’s important to rule out any medical reasons for not getting a pet.

First make sure your loved one has no allergies to pet dander. Next, poll everyone who provides care for your loved one to see if they have pet allergy issues. If anyone is allergic, then you should probably avoid getting a pet. Despite the popular term “hypoallergenic pet,” you need to realize that technically there is no such thing as an allergy-free animal.

2. Who will care for Fido?

Caring for a pet can provide a senior loved one with a real sense of purpose. No longer is your family member only a care-receiver; now he or she can be a care-giver, too.

But not all seniors may be able to take care of a pet on a daily basis. Be sure to take into account their ability to meet its needs—now and in the future. Will your loved one remember to feed and water the animal? Will he or she be able to walk the dog twice a day?

If physical or cognitive decline renders your senior family member unable to care for the pet, who will step in to help? If you think you eventually may need to remove the pet from the home, realize it can be an emotionally wrenching experience for both your family member and the animal.

3. What breed makes the best couch potato?

Companionship represents one of the greatest benefits of pets for seniors. Simply having a warm body to hug, stroke and love can keep a senior calm and congenial.

For this reason, you probably want to avoid getting a high-strung or high-energy dog or cat. Instead, opt for animals that exhibit an easygoing temperament. Some dog breeds, such as golden retrievers, are known for their laid-back nature. And sedate, elderly cats can be hard for shelters to adopt out, creating a win for both your loved one and the kitty. Consider choosing an animal that will be happy to sit quietly and snuggle with your loved one for hours on end.

4. Are you a cuddler?

Golden retrievers may be couch potatoes, but they’re not lap dogs. If your senior family member wants a pet that can be held and cuddled, be sure to get one of an appropriate size. And if bathing and grooming the pet won’t be an issue for you or your loved one, you might consider choosing a breed with longer, silkier hair. These animals can be a delight to touch and hug.

5. Who will choose the new pet?

It can be hard to cope with the loss of physical function or the cognitive decline that often accompany aging. Seniors often report feeling depressed when they become dependent on others for their care. Having a pet to take care of can help a senior feel needed again.

To start that journey to restored purpose, let your family member choose the pet instead of surprising them with a dog or cat as a gift. Allowing your loved one to pick out the new pet confers a sense of control and decision-making power they may be lacking in other areas of their life.

Take a trip to the shelter together and let your senior relative meet a selection of animals to see how they interact. If you’re concerned about your loved one’s decision-making ability, call the shelter ahead of time and tell them what types of pets you’re looking for. That way, your family member will interact with a pre-screened group that meets your criteria.

A furry family member can be a valuable part of your caregiving team. They offer boundless, unconditional love, lend a non-judgmental ear when you need to vent and can provide an amusing distraction with their antics.

Do you or your senior loved one have a cherished pet? Tell us about it at the Remember for Alzheimer’s online community.

Last revised: May 5, 2015

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  1. May 18, 2015 at 4:50 pm | Posted by Lisa Keller

    To select a pet, I would get a lot more help from a pet professional. Your local animal shelter, may or may not have anybody qualified to help you with such an important decision. Think professional dog trainer if a dog, and go to a cat show if it's a cat. There are purebred and mixed cats at the show...and sometimes a shelter even puts their adoptables in the show, and the judge will talk to the audience about what he likes about each cat! Do your homework first, and expand your choices before then narrowing them down. there are over 200 dog breeds, and prematurely thinking Golden retriever or some other popular breeds may leave a better matching breed unconsidered in your haste. remember to spend a lot more time on this decision than picking out a new outfit...think...more time than planning a vacation, or even on dating choices.


  2. May 14, 2015 at 3:00 pm | Posted by Dave Mainwaring

    Will the wonder dog bite caregivers and visitors? Our dog was very protective of my ADW. Getting a pet to a kennel in an emergency can be a show stopper. Dave Mainwaring Knowledge Networks


  3. May 14, 2015 at 1:06 pm | Posted by Barra Jacob-McDowell

    Another issue that should be considered, if the proposed pet is a cat is: who will be able to scoop out and change the litter box? This is important! Seniors who cannot easily bend over or kneel down to tend one on the floor could possibly use a low seat that would enable them to reach. Clumping litter is easier; if one of the wheat brands is considered, check first about allergies. Clumping litter, even if listed as "flushable" should NOT be flushed down a commode on upper floors, or you may have plumbing issues and angry neighbors if it's in a building. If a litter box becomes too dirty and smelly (remember that cats have more sensitive noses than we do), they will not use it, and feel forced to go elsewhere. I empty mine, wash them (I have two for three cats) every 10 days or so, use vinegar water to deodorize as it air drys, and refill with fresh litter. Also, both caregivers and care recipients can enjoy brushing or combing a pet who can tolerate it. My severely physically handicapped husband rejoices that one of our cats faithfully spends a lot of time either on his lap or lying on the chair arm next to him. It may take a while to find a brush or comb that is comfortable to hold while using, especially if one's hands are very gnarled as his are from arthritis--but he loves feeling that he can contribute a little to Bo's care, even though he can't do the litter box or provide food and water as I can.


  4. May 14, 2015 at 8:32 am | Posted by Rebecca

    Thank you, for some very good points to consider both the realities of care that a pet requires as well as their very special place in a persons life; If the pet is happy and relaxed in the setting, getting its needs met while uplifting the family member that has health &/or cognitive struggles this will be a win win!


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