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40/70 Rule: Communication Assessment

Tongue-tied with Seniors? Let's talk…

After you answer the following 15 questions, you will receive an assessment of your conversational relationship with your parents, along with resources and tips that can help you talk to your aging parents. This assessment is intended for educational purposes only and should not be interpreted as a recommendation for a specific course of action.

Please answer each question based on your present situation and press "SUBMIT" at the conclusion of the survey.

*In order to receive a proper assessment, please answer all of the questions below.

Please note:
This assessment tool has been developed by Home Instead, the world's largest provider of companionship and home care services for aging adults. This is not a diagnostic tool, and is for informational purposes only.

Last revised: December 8, 2010

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  1. January 5, 2015 at 8:19 pm | Posted by maria

    I take care my mother. I am an only child but some how I am not her daughter anymore and suddenly I have a sister. she always talk in third person, and waiting for her little child to come back at home. her favorite word is no. oh! I forgot to mention that she live w me for the last 16 years but she said that she come in last week and her husband (which die in 1997) will come in to get her. It is very devastating for me, a lot of times she refuse to eat and when I try to bring some company for her do not last loo long. Everything was wrong w that person after a while. is liked living w estranged. my grand mother die liked this and now her, maybe I am next is not very encouraged to go on.


  2. July 16, 2014 at 3:01 am | Posted by Pamela Joy

    I am caring for both of my parents. Their needs are similar in only some ways. My father, who has kidney failure and has been prescribed hemodialysis, is open and easier for me to talk to about these serious issues, however, my mother, who is also diabetic with a heart condition, is very much in denial, and has obvious mental obstacles which make me somewhat fearful to discuss the hazardous situations that she presents, such as hoarding and general uncleanliness.


  3. March 4, 2014 at 12:29 pm | Posted by Taffey Murray

    would like to take this test when its ready.


  4. August 5, 2013 at 10:26 am | Posted by denny Wallace

    can't get by question 6


  5. May 23, 2013 at 5:37 pm | Posted by Lois von Halle

    NFCA used to have information on Medical Jewlery for Caregivers; if I am hurt then my bracelet will notify first responders that someone I care for will need help. Do you have this information? Thank you, Lois vH


  6. June 14, 2012 at 11:24 pm | Posted by S Reddom

    I could only get to Q#6 of 15 before being blocked from proceeding, the whole list of answers for #6 would not appear with the "NEXT" button, even though my screening was all turned off. Thanks for a great site and very valuable information.


    • July 22, 2013 at 11:35 am | Posted by Holly

      I am having the same problem as S Reddom and it is now July 2013. Please fix it. I would love to know what to do to improve my communication with my parents. Thanks, Holly


      • July 22, 2013 at 12:52 pm | Posted by Cat Koehler

        Hi Holly. We are working on this. I'll let you know when we have it functioning properly. Cat Koehler Home Instead


    • February 26, 2014 at 9:48 am | Posted by Sandy

      Same issue here and its 2014 still not fixed. I also would like to finish the questionnaire.


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