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70-40 Rule®: Communication Assessment Results


Your test score indicates that you have a healthy conversational relationship with your adult children. To keep things that way, remember to address issues with your adult children sooner, rather than later, when they can become a crisis.

When children come to you with an issue, it's normally because they're concerned and because they care. Even if you don't like what they have to say, appreciate why they are saying it. Remember feelings you had for your parents when you were younger, and think about the difficulties you might have had in raising sensitive issues with them.

Your child is feeling that same anxiety, so even if you disagree, look for ways to express your appreciation for their motivation. "I know you‚ and your are saying this because you care about me." Expressing gratitude, caring, love and appreciation demonstrates your desire to maintain a positive relationship, no matter what the outcome of the current conversation.

Contact Home Instead for information about how you can get the kind of support you need to successfully age in place. Other great resources include the National Family Caregivers Association at and the Family Caregiver Alliance at

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