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Bathing Mom is awkward


Jerry from St. Louis has been caring for his mother for awhile, but now she needs more help. He feels awkward bathing her and has asked funny lady Mary Maxwell for her advice.

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  1. August 22, 2014 at 4:14 pm | Posted by Loretta Holgate

    My wife wrote an ebook, "How Not to Become a Chronic Pain When You're in Chronic Pain" that helps caregivers also. Here is the latest review-"This no holds barred no nonsense guide to living well with chronic pain is a real kick in the pants. There must be some Florence Nightingale in the author for she neither gives nor takes any excuses when it comes to dealing the best you can with pain. The author herself has rheumatoid arthritis- a very painful condition. Yet she demands the best in terms of lifestyle from people in pain. Refreshing and full of wit and wisdom, the author delves into the role of the family in enabling people in pain, the failure of some people in pain to make an effort, the role of painkillers. This book- as brief as it is- is worth more than many books on pain several times longer. She would make a great pain coach and i hope the author will continue to share her experience and no-nonsense wisdom for people in pain." Thank you for reading this. Randall Holgate


  2. July 31, 2014 at 8:22 am | Posted by Roland

    Most good Senior Care Agencies will provide bathing/shower services without as many days a week as you would like. Some agencies charge extra for these services but most do not.


  3. July 25, 2014 at 6:17 pm | Posted by Natali Beale

    I am a nurse working full time on an Alzheimer's/dementia unit and I have found that giving your loved one 2 choices. "Would you like a bath or shower today?" Also have the towels fresh out of the dryer and warm. Make it fun like saying, "We are going to the spa, and after that we are going to the get some icecream or a milkshake. Sweet is the last taste that is unwanted with someone with Alzheimer's disease and your mom probably remembers days of going to the spa/salon. Play some music from her era. Hope this helps.


  4. July 25, 2014 at 3:46 am | Posted by Beverly High

    Please let Jerry know if there is no help, make it a bubble bath or a shower using a hand towel for modesty. Always wear gloves, it helps make the bathing less invasive. I speak from experience, Jerry. I took care of both parents, Mom through Alzheimer's then Dad with COPD/Emphysema. Bathing was hard in allowing mom and dad thier dignity and privacy. Mary's advice is on target, 2-3 mornings or afternoons a week takes care of bathing plus gives you a needed break. I called them mental/emotional breaks. Good luck.


  5. July 24, 2014 at 11:54 am | Posted by shirley

    They have visiting nurses who come out to give baths.


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