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What do I do when I think my sister is abusing her power of attorney?


Question: I have just discovered that my sister, who has our dad's power of attorney (dad has advanced Alzheimer’s)and control over our mom's finances (also diagnosed with dementia) has given herself and her son over $20,000 in personal, undocumented loans from our parent's retirement savings, over the past five years. I ran a credit report on mom and dad and learned she has also had dad co-sign a college student loan. On top of this, she is charging mom's household expenses to mom's Visa, then writing checks for the purchases to herself. She is claiming that this is what mom wants and to stay out of mom’s personal finance. I see this as stealing. What do people do in this situation when someone has POA and claims they are in charge, but are abusing their parents?

Dr. Amy: This is a tough situation and, sadly, I hear many stories like yours. The idea behind a power of attorney is for a trusted and honest person to take actions to benefit the person needing care. Your sister cannot make financial transactions to her benefit unless this is expressly stated in the power of attorney. I encourage you to talk with an elder care lawyer to get specific guidance on how to proceed. Good luck!



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  1. October 10, 2019 at 10:22 am | Posted by Mimmy

    My sister received my other sister son's money.Were my sister also passed on.After his son.I was the one assisting my sister with everything.I used my money to bury his son I didn't have insurance i used my own money.I was her trustee she didn't want anyone except me.She stayed with the last child of my sister of which I granted her permission to stayed there.What she did she purchase furniture renovate the house with this money.She bought everything in her names She didn't inform me,everything is about her and her children's.I don't appear anywhere as I was the one that I stand with my sister through thick and thin.


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