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My mom had the surgery, but my dad's the one who is depressed!


Question: My mother had an accident at home in 2010 and had hip replacement surgery. After months of physical therapy she is doing better but my father has been depressed since then. After medical evaluations including psychiatric treatment, my father is still depressed and I don't know what else to do. Please advise!

Dr Amy: The short answer is: don’t give up keep trying! I know this is easier said than done, but treating depression can sometimes take longer than you think.  A lot of broken bones heal very nicely. Generally speaking, an x-ray shows where the break is, and the treatments are well known. The mind is not always so straightforward.

Your mother’s surgery seems to have triggered something for your father and he needs help so he can be happier again. The  right medication, together with counseling to learn to change thoughts and manage feelings, is often effective for treating depression. But it takes time. I encourage him to talk with his doctor again about his depression and to ask about the best treatment--including the possibility of anti-depressant medication and counseling. Don’t give up! If you keep trying, I am sure you will find the right answer.

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