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An End to Sibling Squabbles


Elaine is tired of the sibling tiffs over her jewelry. Mary gives her some practical advice to put an end to the bickering.

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An End to Sibling Squabbles

-Mary Maxwell, Posted July 24,2012

Elaine from Aurora writes, "Whenever my two daughters get together, the topic of conversation always comes back to who will inherit certain items of fine jewelry. I trust that my eldest daughter will take much better care of these treasures, but I don't want my younger daughter to feel left out. I'm sick of the bickering and I don't want to spend time mediating between my girls with what time I have left. Who should get the jewelry and how can I get them to be quiet about all of it?"

Well, Elaine, I know "shut up" isn't nice, but sometimes it works. I don't know exactly what you mean by fine jewelry. It could mean anything from your grandmother's pearls to the cute trinkets you bought on the boardwalk on that vacation in Atlantic City in 1983. You could use that old trick of telling the girls that whoever brings up the subject of the jewelry first has to let her sister pick first. That should get you a lot of silence. Or, the next time you're all together, you can tell them that you've decided that they should shoot dice for each piece of fine jewelry and take it home that day. It could actually be kind of fun, if you throw in a couple of glasses of Chardonnay and a Michael Bublé CD.

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  1. September 10, 2012 at 4:06 pm | Posted by Deborah

    I loved listening to what Mary suggestions were. All of them were great ideas and funny ones too. I sure wish I would have hear those idea many moons ago when my father pasted. There is not just two sibblings in our family there are 9 but 8 living now. Seven girls and two boys. I'm so glad I don't have to worry about my son and daughter fighting over my things.


  2. August 9, 2012 at 7:09 pm | Posted by Kaitte

    So what did Elaine do? Anything... I know of one lady I took care of a long time ago... she gave pieces of jewelry to whom she wanted it to go to before she died... I like the crap shoot idea though, you roll the dice and who knows probably one sister will end up with more and the idea of whomever mentions it again is last to choose... and who wants to be last?


  3. July 27, 2012 at 1:42 pm | Posted by Nancy Clark

    A very sensible solution...Mary seems to have been born with good ideas of fairness. What will happen to my stuff? Nothing valuable, but each thing I've collected has meaning. (Only to me I guess as no one else seems interested.)


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