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Book Club Politics


Mary offers Angela some advice and a dose of reality about her book club.

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Book Club Politics

Mary Maxwell, Posted June 11,2012

Angela in Canton has an issue with her book club: "Dear Mary, I'm in book club with a group of women from church. There is one lady who always picks the next book and I should mention she hasn't picked a good one in 3 years. All of the others just acquiesce to her even they have suggestions for a different book for the next month. I'm tired of her thinking she runs the show
and I want someone else to pick the next book. How can I handle the situation?"

Well Angela, this has been simmering quite a while, hasn't it? Is the lady in question, by any chance the wife of the minister? Or an English teacher? or a librarian? Somebody the other ladiesadmire and respect? And why do I get the feeling that this 'someone else' you'd like to pick the next book is named Angela? And how is it that the book club has survived for 3 years given all the bad book selections? Of course, in my book club the main attractions are the lunch, the conversation, and the wine, not necessarily in that order. But if you want to make a change, why don't you suggest that the club members each take a turn picking a book? That way it won't look like you're making a power grab. It will seem very democratic and after all, isn't that the American way?

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  1. August 29, 2012 at 5:05 pm | Posted by Wendyy

    I just lost my husband on November 10, 2011 after 5 years of a cogoeuarus battle against LBD … always victorious. I am sorry for all of the heartless doctors and aides you were both subjected to. In that aspect, I was lucky. We had an immediate diagnosis and except for one aide who left him reclining for 4 hours soaked in his urine, we were blessed with caring aides. I wish I had heard about your book before but I wish you success in helping those still fighting the fight.


  2. July 10, 2012 at 10:58 am | Posted by Vicki

    I am a Director for Senior Housing and at our Residents Book Club we have a red bucket and everyone that wants to pick the next book puts their name and the name of the book on a sheet of paper and puts it in the bucket at the closing of the meeting the person who's book we just finshed pulls the name of the next book and person.


  3. June 26, 2012 at 12:52 pm | Posted by Gloria

    Mary is very tactful, which goes along with sinsitiveity, and cleverness, which equals alot of laughs. Keep up the good laughs.


  4. June 14, 2012 at 12:22 pm | Posted by Jo Ann Kline, MSW

    Mary is the Bomb! I am a service coordinator at a senior apartment complex and they all agree that Mary rocks!!!


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