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Unwanted Surprise Party


Frances thinks her family is planning a surprise party for her 80th birthday– a party she doesn’t want. Mary gives her some practical tips for getting through it without ruining anyone’s fun.

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Unwanted Surprise Party

Mary Maxwell, Posted May 28,2012

Francis in Carson City writes, "Dear Mary, my husband and children have been up to something. I'm not sure what--they aren't telling me--but I know they're in cahoots. I'll walk into the living room and my husband will quickly get off the phone and say he was just talking to Becky, our youngest daughter. When the kids are over, the three of them and my husband will be having a conversation but stop and scatter when I walk in the room. My 80th birthday is coming up in a couple of months and I think they might be planning something. I don't want a surprise party and I think they should just stop it. How do I tell them to put a halt to their planning?"

Well, Francis I guess there's one thing you don't have to worry about: at least it won't be a surprise. I think you know darn well what they're up to. My family planned a surprise party for me when I was 60. I wouldn't have known a thing about it if one of the guests hadn't called me by mistake. He thought he was calling my cousin, who was also named Mary. Anyway, he had lost his invitation and he wanted to know what time the surprise party began at our house. It was one of the best parties ever and my family got a huge kick out of doing it. I never told them that I had found out about it. So I guess I'm saying, these people love you and they are having a ball planning this party for you. You just can't ruin it for them. This is why God created Chardonnay. Just look surprised and have a couple of glasses of wine. Before you know it, everybody will go home and you can take a nap on the couch, like you always do when you have a couple of glasses of wine.

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