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Saving a Friendship


Linda wants to know how to repair a friendship torn by different lifestyles. Mary explains, that putting a hold on the relationship—even for a little while—is a good option, and could save more than just the friendship.

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Seniors might have to take the initiative to overcome lack of companionship by finding the right time to connect with their families or by seeking other outlets for friendship.

Saving a Friendship

-Mary Maxwell, Posted February 20, 2012

Linda from Tulsa writes, "Dear Mary, my best friend and I met 24 years ago and instantly connected. Lately however, we have begun to drift apart. She rretired 3 years ago and spends her days shopping, lunching and relaxing. I'm still working full time with no intentions of stopping anytime soon. My friend doesnt understand why I can't just drop everything to go on a 3-week vacation or a 2-hour lunch with her. I want to be friends but our lives are suddenly very different. How can I save our friendship?"

Linda, just so we're on the same page, would your friend be paying for that 3-week vacation and those 2-hour lunches? If not, then I think you're skating on thin ice. I think you would really like to be your friend--retired, traveling, lunching, reading, relaxing. I know I would. Would you mind giving me her phone number? Just kidding. No, it's probably time to put a hold on the friendship until you're in the same place as she is. It will prevent you from doing her bodily harm. Although, I don't think there's a jury in the world that would convict you.

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Thoughts and stories from others
  1. March 18, 2012 at 1:35 pm | Posted by mary kay

    LOL what a smart lady! She sure lightens the load with laughter and her advice is crazy good! Kudos, Mary!


  2. March 8, 2012 at 7:17 pm | Posted by James Williams

    Her mind is sharp as a tack == May you have = Love to share = Health to spare = Friends who care = with our love Jim n Liz


  3. February 24, 2012 at 11:33 am | Posted by Rev. Kenneth Quandt

    Today is the first time that I have ever seen a video of Mary Maxwell. What an absolute delight. I am sending links to all my friends. Way to go Mary!


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