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Caregiver StressMeter

August 12, 2011

To help you determine what level of stress you may be experiencing in your role as a caregiver, a group of leading eldercare and caregiver stress experts have developed this brief survey.  Your answers are completely confidential and there are no right or wrong answers. Once completed, an assessment of your responses will give you the resources to help you make your personal caregiving experience more rewarding and maintain your own health and spirits.

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This assessment tool has been developed by Home Instead Senior Care, the world's largest provider of companionship and home care services for aging adults. This is not a diagnostic tool, and is for informational purposes only.

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  1. January 24, 2014 at 11:54 pm | Posted by Amanda

    I am a caregiver for my aunty that had a stroke 4 months ago. She was in a Good Therapy place just for 2 weeks and in a Nursing home for 3 months. She is home now and it is really stressing me out. I can't go anywhere if there is no one home to watch her. I tried to make her sit on her wheelchair for at least an hour or 2 so she won't stay in bed for 24hours. her whole right side is paralyze but she can feel the pain. She seems like she is giving up. She calls my name all the time and want me to do what she wants to do. I bath her change her briefs and cook and so on. but when i put her on the chair she starts crying and calling me names saying im a bad person. I don't know what to do i feel like im not doing anything good to her...I am thinking of takin her to a nursing home but i don't know a good one. Please i need your help. I have been so stressed and emotional almost everyday.

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    • May 30, 2014 at 10:40 am | Posted by Kathi

      Amanda, It sounds to me like you are doing everything just right. Your aunt just cannot express it. When people become elderly some of them get very aggravated very easily. If she could I am sure she would thank you over and over. I am the caregiver for my husband who has end stage liver disease. Nothing I do is good enough for him. I feed him, dress him, change his soiled clothes, clean up the soiled bathroom after him in the middle of the night, give him his meds on time to the minute, wash his clothes and soiled and wet linens, try to make nutritious meals, give him insulin shots, bathe him and it is still not enough for him. I do not leave the house because he cannot be alone. I cannot afford a chore provider and we are not qualified to get one at no cost. I know your stress very well. I just want to tell you that you sound like you are doing a wonderful job. It is one of the hardest jobs in the world. No pay. The hours suck 24/7/365. But I know she appreciates it even though she goes off on you.

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  2. December 28, 2012 at 3:07 pm | Posted by Annie Gagnon

    Dear Support Group, I have no idea where to begin, however, I am a 24/7 caregiver for my husband! He has Neuropathy and ulcers of the legs, a blown disc in his back, and knees that can barely carry him around at well over four hundred pounds, he has diabetes II, he is on insulin, pain medication, and needs my care for almost every move! I myself am disabled, due to depression and health, and the situation here is not helping any! I can't keep up with the care, the house, the demands needed for his care, it stresses me to no end, yet, I can not leave him like this either, a home is out of the question, he owns his moble home and refuses to leave it, as it is now, after almost eleven years of marriage, he has not left the house in two years, only for doctors appointments, I go for errands and a few outings a year, but all the time gone stressing over him and the dog, took the dog with me Thanksgiving, and stayed over night at my daughters, I feel a lot anxiety about this and seems things are just getting worse! thank you for listening! Annie

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    • May 30, 2014 at 10:43 am | Posted by Kathi

      God love you, Annie. Your situation sounds much like mine. It is nerve wracking. Take care of yourself. Learn to say no to some demands. You will get sicker if you keep on. Everyone tells me this too yet nobody comes to assist me. Ugh...it is exasperating but you are doing a wonderful job.

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  3. November 10, 2012 at 11:06 am | Posted by Helen Henson

    I have used Home Instead now for about a year. I am my husbands caretaker. We have been married going on 52 years, it was very hard to leave him in the care of someone else out side our family. But now I am very pleased with the out come and I have help from Home Instead twice a month through the veterans service giving us 30 days a year because he served his country and paid for it then. I have very little help from other sources, but this gives opportunity to do the normal thing to keep our home supplied and maybe a few minutes to do over things. My prayers go out to all who are care takers, and the loved one you care for. This inudes the organization of Home instead and all their caretakers.

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  4. July 24, 2012 at 11:18 am | Posted by James Houston

    My wife and I have been married 44 years and she was diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer's and I have witnessed her deline over the past four years. I have now assumed the role of cook, chauffeur, housekeeper, and all round man Friday. Things are now beginning to pile up and I have found a housekeeper and contacted Home Instead to see about a sitter one evening a week while I teach a class. Our adult children live as far away as California and I dread the time when it will not be possible to fly. Having said all that, I find a good deal of inspiration in this string of comments. I hope that as time goes on I can be as loving and gracious as others.

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  5. February 14, 2012 at 12:04 pm | Posted by Joan Wrenn

    I have a copy of a poem read by Mary Maxwell in a video called "A Reminder that Laughter is the Best Medicine". The poem is BLESSED IN AGING..BY Esther Mary Walker. I would like to use it in my new book: ROBBERS OF THE MIND.. Do you know how to get in touch with her?

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    • February 14, 2012 at 12:26 pm | Posted by Cat Koehler

      I believe Ms. Walker passed away in 2005. Her poem, Beatituties for Friends of the Aged, was written in 1958 when she was providing care for her own mother. I'm sorry that I don't have any contact information for her family. Cat Koehler Social Media Advocate Home Instead Senior care

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      • November 10, 2012 at 10:52 am | Posted by Helen Henson

        You could go to the Internet and find the poem by putting name and author. I find this useful .

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  8. October 24, 2011 at 12:28 pm | Posted by National Family Caregiver Month: Time to Evaluate Caregiver Stress — Home Instead San Antonio

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  10. October 8, 2011 at 3:25 pm | Posted by sharon dunavan

    I'm very stressed out. Any advice?

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    • May 29, 2012 at 12:37 pm | Posted by Brad

      My wife and I were caregivers for her mother for several years and understand the stress in having this responsibilty. We found a site that allowed my wife to share her concerns and in return she received alot of encouragement from those that found themselves in the same situation. The site is treatmentdiaries.com Regards, Brad

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