December 29, 2010
You finally convinced your mother that she needs a little help at home, but then your sister visited from out-of-state and convinced Mom that she was fine. Now that sis is gone, you're stuck doing all the extra work.
Sometimes siblings like to one-up each other in an effort to stay in control or have the last word, or they simply have a different take on the situation. Chances are this tendency dates back to childhood. Why not make a list of all of your mother's needs and all that you are doing to meet those needs?
Schedule a time to meet with your sister or confer with her by telephone. Tell her that you are struggling to keep up with Mom's care and then show her the list of all that you're doing. Try not to be defensive. When she sees all of your mother's needs in black and white, reality may sink in. Remember, even though your sister lives farther away, she may be in a position at some point in time to take turns assisting in the care of your mother.
Then, ask your sister what she would recommend. Try to keep an open mind while your sister shares her thoughts about the best ways to assist your mother.
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