Sometimes just understanding the factors that play into family dynamics can help you feel a little less frustrated about your role as primary caregiver. At least you know you're not alone in feeling like your brother is taking on less than his fair share of the responsibility, and maybe you really are doing four times the work because you were always "the responsible one." Here are the facts behind the feelings...view video
No matter what your family relationships are like, an aging care plan represents unchartered waters for most families. Who takes care of Mom and Dad, and where? Do you seek outside support or try to do it all yourselves? What do you do when you can't agree or when someone feels left out?
Family caregiving doesn't typically run smoothly when brothers and sisters caring for seniors can't agree. Three key factors, more than any others, will influence if relationships between the adult children will deteriorate, and whether the quality of care to the parent will be compromised.
"Mom always liked you best." It was a popular line from the 1960s comedy duo the "Smothers Brothers". The truth is, birth order and parental preferences do impact caregiving situations in families with multiple siblings. Research conducted by Cornell University gerontologist Karl Pillemer found that mothers ages 65 to 75 in the Boston area were perfectly willing to name favorites among their children.
A short list of resources available to help you meet your senior care needs. It includes a that guide will provide family caregivers with answers to a number of caregiving questions including: Who provides home care and what do they do? Are all home care companies the same? What questions do you ask when looking for a home care company? How much does home care cost?
You enter your dad's home and can't believe the stacks of stuff that have accumulated on every flat surface: piles of newspapers and mail everywhere, the medicine cabinet overflowing with 10 years worth of hair spray (despite his being bald), heaps of dirty laundry on the bed so there is no place for him to sleep. You wonder how it got this bad. Learn steps you can take to recognize and help de-clutter your senior's life.
Taking the approach, just throw the junk out, does not take the senior's situation into mind. It does not address the real reasons behind why seniors want to hold on to items. This list of ten reasons will help you approach the subject of clutter in a more diplomatic matter.
Getting rid of stuff is actually a two-step process: sorting and deciding, on the one hand, and disposing on the other. That's according to University of Kansas Professor Dr. David Ekerdt, who is coordinating a "household moves" project to determine the role that possessions play in older people's housing decisions. But convincing seniors can be a challenge.