Sandy is asking if it is appropriate for her mother, who was widowed after 50 years of marriage, to start dating?
Mary Maxwell, Posted March 13, 2013
Sandy from Charlotte asks, “I have a question that I hope you can answer. My father passed away three years ago at the age of 72. He and mother had just celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary a few months before. They were always the perfect couple; a couple everyone admired. That is why I can’t understand how my mother can be dating. For the last few months she’s been spending a lot of time with a gentleman from church. They see movies together, go to dinner, and now he wants her to go on a weekend trip. How can I make her see this is inappropriate?”
Sandy, dear, cool it. Your mother is not being inappropriate. 3 years is more than enough for a mourning period….especially at our age.
One of the best proofs that a long marriage was a good one is that the surviving partner is not afraid of another relationship. Now, to be honest, I’m hoping that my husband won’t actually bring a date to my wake, but I certainly don’t want him to spend the rest of his life sitting in his recliner watching fox news and thumbing through our wedding album. In fact, I’m thinking of making a list of some possible future companions for him. I will also point out the person who, if he takes her to dinner, will make it necessary for me to come back to haunt him.
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