Rita is tired of cooking Thanksgiving dinner year after year. Mary offers her some practical advice to get through the holiday meal.
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Mary Maxwell, Posted October 2, 2012
Rita from Boise writes, "my three boys and their families come over for Thanksgiving day every year and I'm always expected to cook the entire meal. I just turned 72 and quite frankly, I don't feel much like preparing all that food and I can't imagine that I would even be able to lift the turkey in and out of the oven. My sons are worthless in the kitchen and I don't want them to think I'm lazy. What should I do?"
Rita, I wonder if it's possible that the boys think you want to do Thanksgiving dinner and would be heartbroken if anyone suggested that they should begin taking turns hosting holiday meals. After all, are these not the same sons who think babysitting their children is your greatest pleasure in life? If you can't bring yourself to suggest that it's time to pass the torch, I think the answer is pizza. I would suggest that pizza is now an acknowledged American tradition. You don't have to get up early to bake pizza for hours. You don't have to have innumerable side dishes. You can choose a number of large pizzas, a family sized salad, and maybe—”because it is a holiday—”several dozen breadsticks, all of which can be delivered and all of which you can lift in and out of the oven without breaking a sweat. If anyone suggests that it would be unpatriotic to replace turkey with pizza, agree with them and ask what you can bring to their house for Thanksgiving dinner.
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