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Attending a Past Love's Funeral

 

Harriet wants to attend her high school sweetheart's funeral, but is afraid to tell her husband. Mary gives some funny, but thoughtful tidbits on whether it's proper to attend a long lost love's services.



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Attending a Past Love's Funeral

-Mary Maxwell, Posted April 30,2012

Harriet in Boulder says, "Dear Mary, I regularly read the obituaries to see if I know anyone listed. This morning, my high school sweetheart's name appeared on the page. I'd like to attend the service to offer my condolences, but I'm worried my husband will think it's strange or be offended. What should I do?"

Of course you read the obituary page, Harriet. My age group calls it the sports page. I can't for the life of me think why attending the funeral service would offend your husband. You might even ask him to go with you so you can show him off to your old friends from high school. The deceased poses no problem. He's not out to try and renew the relationship, which if I may say so would be a very one-sided one. It could even be the case that your husband would think it's a nifty thing to do. He may be hoping that his high school sweetheart comes to his services when the time comes. Which brings up another question: how would you feel about that? Maybe you're worrying about the wrong person's feelings. Some widows I know would have been very uncomfortable if their husband's services had been swarming with old girlfriends. It's something to consider.

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  1. May 10, 2012 at 2:40 pm | Posted by Jo Ann Kline, MSW

    Mary is sooooo precious, I just love her comments and her deadpan expression. I pray she lives forever.

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  2. May 6, 2012 at 10:09 pm | Posted by Denis Palmer

    I love MARY!!!! I've bookmarked her so I can keep up with her video advice. And I'm sharing her with all my friends.

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  3. May 1, 2012 at 10:46 am | Posted by Donna Bakula

    I loved the humor. I have a question. Sometimes I think I may be in denial that I have aged. Are there some signs that I should look for so that I can be realistic about my age? I may be able to share some tips with my friends who have the same problem.

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