Question: My mom is 83, my dad is 85. Mom is taking care of my dad who had a stroke at the age of 42. They will not leave their home. My dad is having memory loss. Mom can take care of herself but is wearing out fast, taking care of my dad. I live out of town and cannot take care of them both. Please give me some advice on what to do.
Dr. Amy: Your parents might benefit greatly from home care services. Home Instead Senior Care has specially trained CAREGivers to work with people like your father, who is suffering memory loss. And they can help with light housekeeping, meals, running errands. This would lighten your mom’s load and give her a break. If you don’t think you are able to afford home care services, you could call the Adult Services Unit of the Department of Social Services in your parents’ county to find out if your parents qualify for government-sponsored services. I would also encourage you to call community services in your parents’ area, to find out what these local organizations can provide. If your mom and dad belong to a church or other faith community, that’s a great place to start since they will know about all of the services in their home town. Last but by no means least, I wonder if your parents have other family members nearby or younger friends who could, together, help your mom.
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